Want to freak out your girlfriends, irritate the grandparents, and have total strangers question why you ever decided to be a mother? That’s easy. Tell them you’re not going to do a baby’s room.
My husband and I had an agreement. We were not going to do a nursery before our daughter was born. We didn’t see the point in spending the time, money, and energy when she would likely start out in our room.
As the months rolled on, the “how could you not do a nursery” chatter got louder. I’m not sure who broke down first—my husband or me. I’ll just say we stumbled into one of the big baby stores by accident.
We debated ladybugs versus butterflies. Both creatures ended up in our daughter’s room, along with some pretty swank furniture. Just as we suspected, the baby’s room collected dust for months after she was born.
Baby number two is on the horizon. Again, my husband and I have a pact. No pre-baby nursery. When I tell people this, their reactions are usually:
- That’s cool.
- Oh, okay (accompanied by an odd stare).
- You don’t want to at least pick a theme?
- What about giraffes? Do you like giraffes?
- But you did a nursery for the first baby.
After much prayer and meditation, I’ve realized that people who go nutty over nurseries are not evil. They’re not crazy either, or at least that’s not the reason they are crazy.
Practically speaking, the baby’s room can be thought of as a parent’s workshop. It houses the supplies, equipment, and space needed to care for a newborn.
There is also something sweet about creating a beautiful space to welcome the latest addition to the family.
Interestingly, some of the people who “encouraged” our first child’s nursery admitted that their kids didn’t use their own bedrooms for months, sometimes years. Apparently it’s just one of the many rites of passage of parenthood.
We will get the new baby’s room together in due time. I’ve heard some rumors about a Star Wars theme, but that’s a whole other story.
To the readers: What’s your baby nursery story? What is the one baby item that you had to have? What’s the best and worst parenting advice you’ve ever heard?
About the author: Nicole Robinson is a freelance writer, parenting blogger and non-fiction book lover. Visit Nicole at her blog, BookWormMama.com, for a discussion of great parenting books and topics that interest moms.
*image source: Kenziepoo, on Flickr